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RESOLVING ISSUES IN A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP

Issues in relationship are in evitable, it often shows up from time to time,but the approach towards handling it would determine the fate of the relationship. A times, misunderstanding in a relationship can help both partners to understand each other more. We might find it difficult to accept, but that is the fact. However,often times,we allow it to linger for so long because both partners had refused to accept the blame and take proper corrections where necessary. Everybody wants his/her opinion to be heard. EGO and pride has a major role to play here, this qualities are very unhealthy for a serious and and committed relationship with a predictable future. There are so many ways by which issues can be resolved amicably. 1)ACCEPTING ONE'S FAULT- so many folks finds it extremely difficult to accept their fault,let alone apologize for it. Even when it is very obvious that they have defaulted. Two wrongs they say cannot make a right, if you don't want to destroy the in...
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Handling Rejection.

Have you ever gotten a gift for your spouse, hubby or perhaps children? With the intention of putting a smile on their face and having them appreciate your kind gesture. But unfortunately, on handing the gift to them, they rejected it right away. Without any concrete reason. How would you feel? Heartbroken right? You wished you never got it in the first place. You wished you never informed them about it. The scenario is similar to loving someone. Cherishing them and doing all your best to ensure they are always happy and fulfilled. But rather than having them reciprocate your love, they ended up jilting you. Making it look as though loving them was the greatest mistake you ever made. . I understand the feelings, it is rather expressed than experienced. Rejection often leads to inferiority complex and low self esteem. You may begin to downgrade your self and feel worthless. With the mindset that no one loves you and every other person is better than you. But there are ways t...

How to cope in a long distance Relationship

Distance is one of the inevitable challenges couples tend to face in a relationship, which is capable of destroying their long built intimacy if not handled with great caution . The thought of being separated from each other creates a great void and vacuum in the heart. It becomes so difficult especially with someone you have had great memories with, being in each other's company and shared things in common. It is just like your world revolves around them because they seems to be present anywhere you are. As the saying goes, out of sight is out of mind, but there is an exception to this statement if the right steps are taken. Some factors which can enable couples cope in a distant Relationship. 2)COMMITMENT - out of sight can never be out of mind for partners who has defined their relationship and are really committed to each other. Being secured about the future, distance seems to be a minor issue for them. On the countrary, partners who are not really into each ...

Why men withdraw after the chase.

And so you met this handsome, and intelligent dude. You admired him secretly but couldn't approach him as you felt it was the most absurd thing to do for a lady to approach a man. Instead you displayed some green light indicating your interest. Fortunately, it worked perfectly. He got the message, wooed you. You became excited as that is what you've always anticipated for. Not quite long, you both started dating. The first few month was exciting and a replica of what a perfect relationship ought to look like. He called frequently, messaged you on regular basis. Requests to see you. Just the moment you thought you've found the one. Just the moment you became head over heels in love. Just the moment you excitedly wants to reciprocate his love. Alas you were wrong after all. As he suddenly started pulling away gradually. giving you the silent treatment. No more calls, no more text messages. He suddenly disappeared into thin air. It has just ended!!! Just like tha...

Cohabitation in a relationship.

Am confused, I've always heard people say that cohabiting with your partner is wrong and brings about disrespect and loss of value. But I have a friend who oco -habited with her boyfriend for more than 2yrs and now they are happily married... I've seen a lot of women who had sex on their first date and yet ended up with their spouse....does having sex on the first date actually makes a woman appear cheap or loose her dignity and value as claimed???? I know a lot of ladies who got deflowered by the one they love but yet weren't dumped as supposed....but Instead it increased the rate of commitment from their significant order as they were being loved and cherished. afterwards. Is there really anything wrong with giving your virginity to the one you love before marriage?? These are the questions that subject some many ladies into a state of dilemma each time they ponder on it.....so many have ruined their life and future trying to imitate other people's life style....

Emotional manipulation.

Have you ever been threatened by your lover? Or mandated to do things in contrary to your wish? If your answer is in affirmative, then there is tendency that you are being manipulated emotionally. Emotional manipulation is an act of exercising authority over someone in the bid to have them under your control and get them do things as you would wish even at the expense of their happiness. Several reason why people undergo emotional manipulation. Lack of esteem - lack of self esteem often leads to indecision. People who lack self esteem often lack the power and ability to make their own choice. They go with whatever they are being presented with despite its negative effect in their life. They find it difficult to say no and stick to it. It is always yes to every thing, they can go to any length just to please their loved ones. Misconception about love- some folks are so overwhelmed by love. They have a wrong mindset about relationships. They often think that being in...

How to outweigh your rivals in your chosen career or proffession.

Have you ever been in a situation where by you desire to pursue your dream course, job, business or skills. But got discouraged by the general belief and mindset that your chosen career path is already saturated with a lot of individuals trying so hard to succeed at all cost. Which demands you either opt out or map out a strategy to beat your competitors in other to be on the top of the game. I am very certain that most people will opt for the former options. Why? Fear of the unknown and uncertainty, fear of being termed a failure. It is so disheartening that a lot of people had given up on their dreams. Because they are afraid to join the list of competitors trying to excel in a saturated career. Oh!! A lot of people are into blogging, so why stress my self into it? Ah!! The business course is already saturated. Is obvious I won't make it, l would rather opt for a medical course. Ouch!! Everybody is now a fashionista, making it will be so difficult. These are excuses fo...

Neediness and desperation, the most proven source of heart break.

He has been your crush, you admire everything about him.. His charming looks, masculinity, charisma, talents and sense of humour...you've always wished and fantasize to have him close to you...at a point, you began to develop this urge and sudden quest within you to approach him by giving him the signal to woo you but you ignore the thought as that may bruise your ego and pride as a "woman"... Making you more vulnerable to hurt and heartbreak especially if the feelings were not mutual and reciprocated. You then decided to keep calm, and allow nature take its full course. While praying that your wishes comes to pass. Fortunately, your dreams became a reality, when he finally asked you out.you didn't think twice before accepting his proposal, after all that was what you've been patiently waiting for. The relationship started, but you were still not satisfied... Because you don't just want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in one...you were ex...

Are men really scared of commitment?

This is one of the common question women ask on daily basis. A lot of women are in a relationship where it seems as though as getting a man commit is a difficult if not an impossible task. They are so skeptical about the relationship, as a result non commitment by their man. Which often gets them in a paranoid state. And they always wondered why a man who claimed to have a soft spot for them could find it extremely hard to show commitment in a relationship which may have probably lasted for some couple of years. To some women, it seem as though their man is emotionally distance from them, they do all to ensure the relationships works, while the man does nothing on his own part rather than enjoy the benefits coming from her own part alone. Now the question is. What could be the major reason behind this? Before I outline some major reasons behind this, I have to brief you on the emotional status of men. Men are rational beings who are often derived by their Ego. Unlike women...