Cohabitation in a relationship.

Am confused, I've always heard people say that cohabiting with your partner is wrong and brings about disrespect and loss of value. But I have a friend who oco -habited with her boyfriend for more than 2yrs and now they are happily married...

I've seen a lot of women who had sex on their first date and yet ended up with their spouse....does having sex on the first date actually makes a woman appear cheap or loose her dignity and value as claimed???? I know a lot of ladies who got deflowered by the one they love but yet weren't dumped as supposed....but Instead it increased the rate of commitment from their significant order as they were being loved and cherished. afterwards. Is there really anything wrong with giving your virginity to the one you love before marriage??

These are the questions that subject some many ladies into a state of dilemma each time they ponder on it.....so many have ruined their life and future trying to imitate other people's life style. So many have ignorantly fallen prey in the wrong hands because they were misinformed or generally made to believe that relationships have a set of rules or was meant to work in a certain way.....

Just like every other aspect of life. Do not let the decision of others influence you. That it worked for your friend is no guarantee that it w"ll definitely work for you. The scenario is just like choosing soccer as a career and being optimistic that you will succeed simply because your friend does the same..and succeeded. even when you are certain that football is not your choice of career.

Do what you feel is right or may work perfectly for you. So you can easily accept any result or psychological trauma aassociated with it.... Nothing brings about self blames and constant regrets than imitating other people's life style and unfortunately, not having it turn out to your favour. Just like you expected.

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