There is no such thing as "love at First sight. You rather call it " Attraction at first sight". Feelings comes up instantly, Emotions builds up whenever the sexual hormones gets stimulated by the feelings of "lust" sending wrong signals to the brain and being misinterpreted as love".
On the contrary, True love develops gradually . It does not rush. It is slow and steady. Sometimes it may take days, weeks or perhaps month. But once it happens, it becomes real and sincere.
When you meet an opposite sex for the first time, you only get attracted to them...the feelings at that moment can't be outrightly described as "love" till you've known them, accepted their flaws, seen their weak points, accepted their personality, get to love them for who they are and not who you want them to be". Ready to stick by them despite their imperfections. Any thing sort of this is "infatuation or lust".
This explains why people who claims to love each other gets bored and tired of the relationship once sexual intimacy takes place or when one or both of them begins to see the flaws and imperfections in the other person . Because love never happened initially.
Are you in abusive relationship?perhaps, you are being taken for granted. You value your partner so much, you can walk a mile for them, but unfortunately, they can't take a step for you. You put all your effort to ensure the relationship works, but they do nothing about it because they probably ain't into you. You feel depressed and wished they could see through your heart to understand how you feel for them. And reciprocate thereafter. If you are experiencing such scenario. Then I would advise you to calm down, take a deep breath and listen to what I have to say now. You haven't done anything wrong by falling in love. You haven't done anything wrong by choosing to stick to them amidst pressures from others who would have been glad having you as their date. You have done absolutely nothing wrong by being loyal to them. However, your major mistake was not realizing the fact that relationship cannot thrive well without the effort of both partners. A heart needs...
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